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219: Your Reality – Friday Fundamentals

Your Reality

Reality – the world or the state of things as they actually exist, as opposed to an idealistic or notional idea of them. Reality is the world we see around us – people, government, society, culture, wealth, etc. Everyone wants to be better. Everyone wants to improve, grow, achieve more success, and create their own reality. Your reality is in your own mind.

“Life is 10% what happens to you and 90% how you react to it.” – Charles Swindoll

Your reality isn’t some external factor that is imposed on you. For the most part, you have the ability to determine what your reality is. You can decide how you react to the external environment and influences, and let them shape you as you desire. Our minds are powerful and we are able to take any external action and process it in many different ways. It’s the people who choose to process these external stimuli in a positive manner and use it to their advantage, who are the ones who shape their own reality.

You can look around and find all sorts of things that reinforce your reality. If you’re looking for poverty, then you will find it. If you’re looking for wealth, then you will find it. If you’re looking for positivity, growth, and opportunities, then you will find it.

Our brains are wired to recognize things we are familiar with. For example, let’s assume you have a 2004 white GMC Sierra truck. You’re out driving around and you notice the exact same truck driving the opposite direction. Why did your brain stop and recognize that one truck out of the hundreds you passed by?

This is the same reason that it’s important to be conscious of your thoughts. Your thoughts shape your reality. If your thoughts are ones of success, opportunity, wealth, happiness, etc. then guess what your brain will recognize next time you’re out driving your 2004 GMC Sierra around? Precisely those thoughts!

Shaping Your Reality

Once you understand that your thoughts shape your reality, then you can begin to start exercising your mind and filling it with thoughts that will create the reality you want. With so many external influences, it can be a challenge to guard your mind against all of the things you don’t want in it. Here are several ways in which you can consciously and subconsciously shape your reality.

  1. Surround yourself with like-minded people. This might be the most impactful action you can take. People are social beings, and we are influenced by our friends, family, coworkers, the news, social media, etc. Unfortunately, not all of those people have your best interest at hand or don’t realize that their words, actions, and mindset can affect you. Surround yourself with people who make you better, force you to grow, challenge your mindset for the better, and overall make you a better person. These are the people you should strive to be around. Life is too short to surround yourself with people who are constant victims, complain about the way things are rather than take action, and especially those who want to pull you down to their level so they’re not alone. Find people who inspire you and want to lift you up. And of course, help others do the same. This habit alone will help you shape your own reality.
  2. Meditation. This one area I personally lack in, but strive to get better. Meditation can help you clear your mind and bring to the surface what is really important to you. Meditation is a bit of an art and takes some practice. Try sitting alone in silence and remove all distractions, thoughts, etc. By doing this, you cleanse your mind of all the noise and outside influence, focusing on what you want.
  3. Read. I don’t know of a better way to grow your mind with knowledge than reading books. Your mind is like a sponge – what you put in is what you get out. If you fuel your mind with valuable content, new material, and that stuff that will shape the reality you want, then that’s just what you’ll get.
  4. Guard your mind against negative influences. The world is filled with noise, people trying to get your attention with news headlines, social media distractions, and so much more. These things will not help you create the reality you want, so don’t give them the time of day to take up precious space in your mind. After all, you can’t worry about everything.

By doing these 4 things, you will begin to see changes in your reality. Your mindset will open up new opportunities for you.

Living Your Reality

You only get one life. No matter what reality you want, you are entirely capable of shaping and creating that reality. You have to choose what you want your life to be, and then make it happen. Every show I end with “engineer the lifestyle you want”, and this is exactly what I am talking about. You can design, create, shape, build and live any life you want. Any life! All you have to do is imagine that life, work towards it, take conscious and calculated actions, and you will get there. So, what is your reality?


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