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207: Your Sphere of Influence – Friday Fundamentals

Your Sphere of Influence

“You are the average of the 5 people you spend the most time with” – Jim Rohn

You are the product of your environment. What you were taught in school, what values your parents instilled in you, what economic environment you grew up in, your place of upbringing and hundreds of other things have shaped you into the person you are today. Every event, accomplishment, failure, etc. have made you who you are. That’s what makes you unique.

One of the most important factors that influence you is who you surround yourself with. Their thoughts, actions, and mindset will rub off on you, and you’ll eventually become more and more like those other people, as Jim Rohn said. Knowing this, you can begin to look at your own life and see these truths.

I’m sure you have some qualities that closely resemble your mom, dad, brother, or sister. Maybe you become more and more like your significant other every day. Maybe that close coworker or business partner is rubbing off on you.

Ok, so this may seem obvious and you might be asking what’s my point. Well, if you want to become someone else than you currently are or grow in a certain area, then you have to look around you and see if your current environment and sphere of influence is promoting that growth or not. If you are surrounded by people with a scarcity mindset, you might never break free and live an abundant life, for example.

Grow Your Circle

It’s important to surround yourself with the right people. People who challenge you to grow, push you out of your comfort zone and make you think in ways you don’t usually. If you want to live a positive life, then seek out positive people. If you want to live an abundant life, then seek out people with an abundance mindset.

There are some great ways you can connect with like-minded people. Here are a few ways I’ve found helpful.

  1. Meetup Groups – there are meetup groups for almost anything you can imagine. Book clubs with pogo sticks? Yep, probably so. Look up a meetup group in your local area and meet people there. From real estate investing groups to cycling, running, and outdoor activities, you can find people who are doing what you find interesting.
  2. Conferences – conferences are a great way to meet and connect with people who share similar interests with you. Often conferences have a cost, so the people there are serious about the subject. I’ve met many great people at real estate conferences including many of the guests here on the podcast.
  3. Mastermind with friends – this is an especially fun one for me. I like to seek out some friends who push me and make me grow and connect with them frequently. Getting a few friends together on a video chat and talking about ideas, goals, etc. is a great way to build your own mastermind community.

Here’s a little exercise you can do. Simply write down the 5 people you spend the most time with or talk to.  Then look at each person and see if they are a good and positive influence on you.

Guard Your Circle

Unfortunately, your friends or even family members might not be the best people to let in your sphere of influence. They might mean well, but might not be the best voices or influences for where you want to go. That’s perfectly ok. Think of your sphere of influence as a small group of people who are helping you grow. Not everyone can be in it.

It’s important to guard yourself against negativity and limiting beliefs. As harsh as it may sound, there just isn’t any room in your life for those things.

Surround yourself with people who push you, make you grow, and encourage you to succeed. In return, be that person for others too. Seek out positivity, growth, abundance mindsets, and challenges. You’ll be surprised how your sphere of influence positively affects your life.


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